Yes, you are both right.
The think is I tried a search first and got lost.
Too much to read, too much to learn for a beginner like me.
Well, I agree I HAVE to learn most of them but, since then I will not have a fine-tuned suspension.
Also, yes, the problem lies on the fork. It just is too stiff, that its killing me.
DIY for me is not an option, I just don't have the time and knowledge for this.
For the moment at least.
I asked in case there is something standard to do to these forks (something that everybody does) when riding in places like mine.
I was hoping for something like:
"Change the OEM spring with this, or this, or this depending on your weight"
"Put this oil, up to that much..."